The Problem with Porn

He’s already seen it.

Porn has been called “America’s #1 addiction.” And it’s not hard to see why:

1. This year, researchers in Canada had to cancel a study on the effects of porn after they couldn’t find a single young man who hadn’t viewed porn for their control group. Their initial search revealed that, on average, young men first view porn at the age of 10!

2. Statistics show that at least half of Christian men (including pastors) view porn on a regular basis.

3. Approximately 1/3 of Christian women access porn regularly; 28 percent of all self-reporting porn addicts are women.

4. Twenty-nine percent of born-again Christians believe it is acceptable to watch sexually explicit movies, yet nearly 60 percent of pastors say porn addiction is the most damaging issue within their congregations.

5. In 2003, 2/3 of divorce lawyers reported that for more than half of their cases involving Internet issues, couples cited online pornography as a significant factor in their divorce. Continue reading

Warning: Controversial Post Ahead (With Pictures!)

Can anyone tell me what’s wrong with the following image?

How about this one?

And this one?

Oops, I’m sensing some confusion. Did you think I was going to talk about homosexuality? Sorry to disappoint, my intrepid readers. Today’s post may be a bit more controversial than that. Bigotry? No. Today, I’m going to talk about a sin that isn’t often discussed in these turbulent, modern times:  Continue reading

God Didn’t Kill My Baby

When I was a young woman, I was one of ‘those people’ who said everything happens for a reason. I’m not sure I genuinely believed that; I think I was mostly repeating what I had heard other Christians say. Fortunately, I got a big wake-up call, courtesy of my then-future husband, when I tried that line on him after his father became disabled:

“That’s the most idiotic thing I’ve ever heard! Why would God cause this to happen, knowing the pain it would cause my family? Do you think my family is better off with my dad at home on disability? Do you think my father is somehow happier not being able to shave his own face or remember what year it is? I don’t think God had anything to do with it. Sometimes, crappy things just happen. There is no reason.”

What he said instantly made sense to me, as well it should have. Did I honestly think my molestation as a child was part of some divine plan? Did I sincerely believe that it was God’s will for innocent people to be killed by drunk drivers? Once I stopped to think about it, it didn’t make any sense. Continue reading

Are You Saved?

I accepted Jesus Christ as savior at 5 years old. I remember the moment so well. I came running down the sidewalk toward my father as he picked me up from school that day, shouting, “Daddy, I’m saved! I asked Jesus into my heart today!” I was so full of joy at knowing that no matter how dark or lonely my life became, Jesus would always be near to comfort me.

But my joyful assurance wasn’t to last.

See, I would go to church and hear ministers ask me if I was really saved. Because there was a chance I might not have been completely sincere in my confession of faith the first time around. I might have prayed the sinner’s prayer without really knowing what I was doing. I might have done it simply to impress someone or to obtain my “get out of hell free” card. I might have unknowingly “back-slidden” since then or left some sin unconfessed during that first prayer. At any rate, I had to question, question, question. Were my motives for following Christ pure? Was my life completely without sin? Was I doing everything possible to be holy? Would God find me worthy of heaven at The Judgement? I had to be sure! My eternal soul depended on it. Continue reading

Why We Suffer


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Several years ago (when I was about 16 or so), I wrote a blog post about why humanity suffers. Some of what I wrote back then (what I can remember, anyway) still holds true in my mind. But other statements, I think, were a little short-sighted. Now that I’m a bit older and wiser, I’m going to take another stab at it. This comes at an appropriate time, as a deadly shooting just occurred at a Connecticut elementary school.

Human suffering is a topic of serious discussion in modern times. Atheists and agnostics hold it up as proof of God’s nonexistence or evidence of divine cruelty. The logic goes, “If a just and loving God did exist, He would not allow us to suffer.” For those who aren’t aware of the Bible’s position on suffering, that can be a compelling argument. Hopefully, I can shed some light on the subject. Here are the following reasons God has given me for why people suffer: Continue reading